Moms of Modesty

God seeking and modest women who answer the call to be homemakers.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can cripple the mind.

on January 31, 2012

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me. How many times have we heard this statement growing up and yet as an adult we see far too often the power that words, in fact, do hold. We see it in the verbally abused wife and children by the husband and father. We see it on the playgrounds at school by the classroom bully, we see it in the overly critical family member or friend, and we even see it now in the digital age by way of texting, facebook, and twitter where these messages can go viral and destroy a person’s self-esteem, reputation, family, and sometimes there life.

Don’t get me wrong, I know the true meaning of the above sticks and stones statement but as in the situations stated earlier where physical abuse is sometimes accompanied with the verbal abuse, it’s a lot easier to heal and recover from a physical injury than verbal injury. Once a bruise or cut heals, you don’t feel the pain anymore and sometimes there is not a visible scar. However, words stick around in a person’s head and can play over and over again like a broken record. These words are implanted in our minds, most often during our formative years when we are impressionable and believe everything anyone tells us. If you tell a 5 year old he/she is worthless and will never amount to anything, they will believe it and you are on the path to crippling your child’s self-worth and how they will see and measure himself with the rest of society forever. Isn’t it true that we hold on to so much from our earlier lives, whether good or bad (mostly  bad)? These early memories and experiences leave lasting impressions and without some sort of divine intervention, it’s nearly impossible to correct or change old thinking.

 As mothers we have the power to build our children up with high esteem or to tear them down and set them on a long course of self-doubt, feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, low self-esteem, and rejection. Are we speaking the right words to our children like God would have us to? We should demand this of ourselves, our teachers, and anyone else who has an influence in our child’s life.  Speak positive things because the world will do enough of the negative. Give your children a strong and positive base that they can always run back to after the world has beat them up. Don’t be the one responsible for crippling a young and impressionable mind beyond repair.

Happy Homemaking!

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