Moms of Modesty

God seeking and modest women who answer the call to be homemakers.

In more ways than one, homeschooling just might save your child’s life.

As my children go through the many issues and problems of attending a public school, it only confirms my belief that our public schools have failed our greatest asset morally, educationally, nutritionally and physically. As parents, I believe we are responsible for holding the schools accountable, yet at the same time I greatly support and understand the need to homeschool children. If I had the resources available, I would immediately withdraw my children from public school and have them homeschooled.

More and more schools are turning our children into juvenile delinquents with records that will follow them the rest of their lives. This is partly because teachers and administration are reacting to misunderstood behaviors, different learning styles, learning difficulties, overcrowded classrooms, limited resources, anti-God curriculum, cell phone distractions, immodestly dressed young girls, violence, and outright chaos.

On the flip side, students are acting out against ill-fit authority who are only teaching to get a pay check, authority who don’t encourage and instead discourage students, authority who takes indecent liberties with students, authority who is not patient and take the extra time to make sure students are truly learning and not just being taught to pass a test, authority who is not prejudice and compromises their ability to be fair and impartial.

Homeschooling or having your child learn in a more controlled environment that focuses on God, family, self, and education is what a proper and successful educational experience is all about. Like the Bible says, the beginning of ALL WISDOM is the knowledge of God. This is the number one reason for the dumbing down in the classrooms all over America.

Happy Homemaking!

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In-laws and Elders Are The Backbone of Marriage

When things get hard in a marriage it can be so easy to think, well maybe it’s not meant to be and want to walk a way. I have been married for almost twelve years and Lord knows my spouse and I have had our share of ups and downs. The reason for this particular blog is to stress the importance of extended family support to rally around the couple to offer wisdom and counsel.

I think our culture has undone and minimized almost to a zero tolerance for in-law and elderly counsel as the back bone of a young marriage. This lack of importance of extended family can be excused away with the typical drama that we see with “monster-in-laws” and the rest of the negativity that often comes with marrying the “whole family”. This is another topic for another discussion. However, for the good and godly in-laws, other family, and friends, this support is necessary for the growth and development and often times the survival of a marriage. Nowadays, too many people are so quick to give in to the temptation of divorce or separation when they encounter difficulty in the relationship, be it adultery, lack of communication, lack of intimacy, different goals in life, or just plain boredom. 

This is why I admire my husband’s culture so much. Nigerian culture dictates that when irreconcilable problems arise in the marriage, the in-laws and elders of the community are called upon for their wisdom and counsel to save the marriage. This is not seen as intrusive or “airing dirty laundry” to family and strangers. These people are respected and trusted with personal information. They are there to lend an ear to listen and lend their voice to wisdom and counsel.  All pride is put aside for the sake of the marriage (especially if children are involved). The couple is not just left to themselves after marriage to resolve conflict or issues. What does a young couple know that older married people have not gone through, survived, and can now give testimony and advice to others on the same path.  If anyone who has ever been married knows, sometimes and outside voice can be the best voice of reason when husband and wife are highly emotionally and pride steps in the way.  Our family and elders remind us of our vows, commitment, and the importance of staying and working through marital problems. This support is necessary for the life of the marriage, the children who may be involved, and the community as a whole. After all, marriage is the first institution and without strong marriages, you don’t have strong families, and without strong families, you don’t have strong communities. This is why we see the moral breakdown in our society today. No one values marriage and family. When you have dysfunctional marriages and family, you have a dysfunctional society.

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