Moms of Modesty

God seeking and modest women who answer the call to be homemakers.

Cell Phones, Internet, and Social Networking: When It Comes To Children, The Disadvantages Far Outweigh The Advantages.

 

Okay, I can’t be the only parent in the world who feels that our children do not need cell phones, facebook/twitter accounts, and unmonitored internet access. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen a child barely old enough to spell the word “cellular” or even knows what it means,  talking and texting like he’s the CEO of a multi-million dollar company on the verge of securing, yet another million dollar contract.

Parents, why do we feel the need to be enablers to so much of the garbage that kids are exposed to through cell phones, internet, and social media?

Well, let me just go through a few of the excuses I found that, we as parents, and our children tell ourselves:

1) By middle school or junior high just, about all kids carry a “cell” at all times, so it makes them feel grown-up, like you trust them with something of value and they need to fit in with others.

2) Many kids take medication and/or have allergies and could need sudden attention. It is a safety issue really, so in an emergency they can always contact someone.

3) Most kids have working parents that need to be contacted after school or from activities.

4) The phones are generally not used during the day until high school, when kids mainly text message and make some calls between classes and after school as well, usually to coordinate plans or call for rides.

5) There are no or very few “pay phones” left in our area, so cells are the only way to reach people from public places.

6) Cells are great on weekends too for divorced families so kids can always reach the parent with whom they are not staying and the other parent can reach the child without having to go through the x-spouse.

7) There are great free or inexpensive games for entertainment in the car or in waiting areas.

8) They are just part of socialization here, as the home phone was when we were kids, except they have photos, videos, games and music as added value.

9) As far as the safety of the cells, my kid’s text, play games, and use the photos and video, more than they even talk on the phones.

10) Since our A T & T phones were free, and we share minutes that also rollover each month if not used, it is not much more of an additional expensive. We can save almost as much because don’t need a home phone at all really.

Here are a few reasons that your children should not have phones, unmonitored internet access, and be on social networking sites:

1.  You cannot monitor everything – we parents think we can, but the reality is we can’t. Not 24/7.

2. Openly disregarding the terms of use set by social media sites and you’re telling your child that online, rules are clearly meant to be broken.

3. Kids aren’t mature enough to understand personal privacy so everything will be out there. Plus, anyone – friend or not – will be able to scan your child’s wall, info and photos. Kids will friend everyone and ANYONE because they don’t understand privacy yet.

4. Cyber bullying

5. Why come up with another reason to stifle your kid’s time outside or their imagination? TV, movies and computer games already do enough of that … why add Facebook and phones.

6.  A cell phone bill for a child to mainly socialize and get into trouble is just an added expense that most parents don’t need.

7.  We don’t know the full extent of the dangers of radiation from cell phones, especially for developing children.

8.  Teens texting and driving have proven to be fatal in too many cases and the numbers are growing.

9. Sexting, Sexting, and Sexting!!!

10. Exposure to inappropriate content.

We can’t bubble-wrap our kids, but we can do our part as parents to give them the best start in life to make them successful and healthy adults.

Happy Homemaking!!!

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Too Much, Too Soon

Is This Taking Fashion Too Far?

Okay, these pictures are scary and sickening to say the least. When I saw these photos my jaw dropped, I got knots in my stomach, and I wanted to find the parents, the pageantry officials, the TLC network, and anybody else who thinks this is okay and have them locked up for child endangerment and any other charge fitting for negligence and contributing to the delinquency of a child.

These are the questions I have to ask:   What are we doing and thinking? Is this what we have come to? Prostituting and pimping our BABIES! FOR WHAT? Is it for fame, money, attention, or recognition? Do our children have any sanctity and worth?

I don’t care what a parents’ excuse is for this demeaning, stupid, immoral, and indecent behavior. This is clearly wrong and the whole industry and TLC should be shut down; they should be held accountable for parading innocent children around half naked, shaking their imaginations on stage, and posing in suggestive positions while parents and others in attendance cheer them on and act as if nothing is wrong.

I am so sick of this nonsense. Who will speak for these pitiful children with irresponsible so called “parents”?  I don’t apologize for the tone of this blog because I know deep down that this is one of the reasons that pedophilia is so rampant in our society. When child molesters see our little girls and boys dressing and acting like adults, these same sick and twisted adults get stimulated by the way your children look (especially if they are attracted to kids in the first place) and  they go on to act out their disgusting thoughts and fantasies on our children. While pedophilia continues to rise and we hear case after case, we as parents need to start taking every precaution we can to protect and safe guard our little ones. Cover their bodies up in appropriate clothes FOR CHILDREN, take the make-up off, take the grown-up jewelry off, and let them be involved in appropriate children’s activities like the Girl Scouts NOT DEMEANING PAGEANTS. What ever happened to teaching our daughters life skills like how to cook, clean, and behave like ladies? What ever happened to encouraging our daughters to do well in school and teaching them to use their heads and not their bodies to get ahead in life? Now we are so concerned with beauty, making money, and competing with other women over vein and unimportant things that are not relevant to a real woman’s life.  As a result, we have sold our souls and now our children’s souls to the devil. Don’t give me that crap about these girls wanting to be in pageants for themselves and not there parents. These girls wouldn’t know anything about a pageant if the parent or some other person didn’t introduced it to them first.

Parents, let’s stop the madness and take a long, hard look at ourselves, our children, and our society. Objectifying our children is not acceptable and in all honesty, it should be against the law because you are attracting negative attention to innocent and vulnerable children. You have the power to shape your children’s values, morals, and the way they see themselves and life and I, especially, challenge any of you parents who say you believe in God and choose to participate in this kind of behavior to explain how this glorifies God and dignifies women in any way.

 Look at these pictures and ask yourself what do you see?

Really?

 
 

This 10 year old girl looks like she is posing for Play Boy or Hustler magazine!

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

This little girl is supposed to be Julia Roberts (the prostitute) in the movie, Pretty Woman.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Wow! Need I say more?

 
 
 
 
 
 
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Maidservants Wanted

Where is a maidservant when you need one?

 
Proverbs 31:15
She also rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household, and a portion for her maidservants.”
 
You know what this verse tells me? It tells me that even back then, mothers had outside help around the house. In fact, Holy books like the Bible and Qur’an speak of having slaves and servants all throughout but before I go any further, let me just clarify that slaves and servants were not like what we think and know of today. Slaves and servants in those days were what we would consider today to be “Molly Maids”  or something equal to that. This was a reasonable occupation to have if one chose to be that. They had rights and they were paid. It’s only the ugliness of the slave trade  in America, Europe, and in some Arab countries that made slavery so deplorable and a thing to look down upon and gave the word “slavery”  its new meaning.
 
Let me get back to my point. Why are we as moms acting like we can be all, do it all, and have it all, ALL AT THE SAME TIME. I must admit that before I had my last child, I didn’t think too highly of hired or even free help (from family or friends). I took pride in the fact that I was able to run my household, work full-time, and still have a  little bit of energy at the end of the day for some me time. Lately, this has not been the case and in the wake of my reality check, I have had a change of heart about how I view mothers who hire a nanny or a maid to help them keep their sanity. Mothers are not perfect, we are not Super Women with the ability to juggle all these different balls everyday, all day.
Everyday I start with a long list of To Do’s and many times, the clothes are left in the dryer all week, I miss a deadline at school for one of my kids activities, I never make it out of my pajamas until the end of the day onlywhen it’s time to go to bed again, or I’ve burned dinner because I’m monitoring the kid’s homework at the same time. Don’t get me wrong, I love my life no matter how crazy it is during the day. I just think that there is nothing wrong with having a little help around the house as needed to maintain a functional home. I don’t want to give the green light to mothers who want to take advantage and rely 100% on others to do what they are ultimately responsible for doing themselves.
 
Many cultures around the world see the importance of having someone in the home to aid with taking care of chores in the house in order to give the mother time to dedicate her time to the children and husband. In my husband’s culture, when a woman has small children, the women in the family will rally their support by cooking, cleaning, and running errands for at least the first 3 years after a woman has given birth  (and sometimes longer). This same practice is carried out all over the world and it just makes me wonder, maybe this is why they have more solid families. Children are never left alone. An adult is always at home tending to the needs of the child. It is only in America where women are so concerned about getting back to work and then we turn around leave our children with complete strangers all day. I’m not criticizing women who must work in order to provide for their children but some of us do CHOOSE to work and sacrifice this one and only opportunity to be with our babies at such a critical time. This does not go without saying that a lot of hired help or even families/friends cannot be trusted in our homes around our children AND husbands. Maybe this is why so many mothers feel they would rather do everything themselves (me, included).  
 
 I don’t have the luxury, financially, to hire someone to come in once a week to do major cleaning nor do I have the privilege of family or friends who would voluntarily help me, but I certainly don’t object to anyone who makes this choice anymore.
 
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Banned Prayer Equals Banned Standards

When are we going to see the connection between our moral decline as a society and the removal of God from our public and private lives? One cannot argue the increase in violence, chaos, and madness. All you need to do is look around at the violence in schools and the failing education system , acts of violence in places of worship that were once considered sacred and untouchable, pre-marital sex, promiscuity, drugs, homosexuality, bullying, depression, suicide, and …….I think  you get my point.

Since 1962 when the U.S. Supreme Court ruled against prayer in schools, America has been in a state of death. This very action has given way to destruction and violence in schools that was never witnessed before. We are living in a state of death because these crimes are common and we are living in constant fear of what next. Our children are not safe; no one is safe living in such an environment. That’s why I say we are in a state of death; we are only surviving in a lawless and immoral society.

I wonder if Madalyn Murray O’Hair (the woman who was responsible for the removal of prayer and bible recitation in schools) really knew what she was doing.  When you remove the highest standard from an important place such as schools, you leave young impressionable minds to determine their own standards and this can be dangerous as we have seen. Sure, children are supposed to have their faith and morals established at home first; however, if this same faith and morality is not reinforced at the very place where children spend most of their time at away from home, then mixed and confusing messages will be fed to that child. Mom and dad say that we must honor and acknowledge God in all we do but when you get to school it’s all HELL. God is creator of everything but they can’t mention his name and they are being taught Darwin’s theory and the Big Bang theory while teachers are sleeping with students and the list goes on and on.

 I am not saying that everyone has to believe in the same thing, in the same way. I’m just saying that there needs to be a common standard; a common denominator that connects us all and that common denominator is GOD. If you look at all the religions that believe in God, they all have the same values and principles in their faith. Is it not true that 2+5=7, 6+1=7, 4+3=7, and 7+0=7? They all have a different way of getting to that common factor but they do get the correct answer. I’m just afraid that when we say we don’t want to have prayer in schools, mention God’s name, the Bible or anything about HIM, we are saying that we don’t want to be held accountable for our actions and we want to bring God down to our level instead of raising ourselves up to His level. When we bring God down to our level, we create problems and situations for ourselves (like what we see in schools today) that ONLY God can get us out of.

 There is no such thing as separation of church and state. He is the creator of us all and everything around us, therefore God and life are one in the same.

Happy Homemaking!

 

 

 

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C-sections Are On The Rise But So Are Natural Births

I’m glad to see more and more women advocating for natural births. I was unfortunate in all three of my pregnancies to never experience natural childbirth, even thought I wanted to. For medical reasons I had to have c-sections to deliver all of my children.

I think that c-sections are pushed on women more and more by doctors for a number of reasons. Many doctors like the convenience of a planned birth date as well as a growing number of women electing to have c-sections to avoid labor and inconvenience. Doctors, often times, make the assumption and persuade women to think that just because they had a previous c-section it is better to not elect for a vaginal birth and therefore another c-section is recommended. Medical problems that are not always worthy of a c-section and can be solved by other unconventional methods are looked down upon by doctors who are not open to these methods and the list goes on and on.

Giving birth is as natural as breathing, painful, but natural. The only assistance that women had back in the day during this spiritual and wonderful experience was the assistance of a midwife. Frankly, I am tired of male doctors (not to offensive) invading the most sacred and private parts of a woman’s body. I’m glad we have male doctors and they are needed but not too long ago, this was a profession occupied by women. There was something so natural about this whole process. In my case I have had all male doctors who delivered my children and if I had to do it all over again I would have chosen women. I think the older generations had it right. They knew that the midwife who was usually a close person in the family or a family friend who was well experienced at delivering children was able to relate to the woman’s physical and mental state during labor and delivery. A woman delivering a child could be free to physically and verbally expose herself without feeling shy, embarrased, or even intimidated by a male presence. The midwife knew that this moment was so personal and sacred and she handled the mother and baby with care as it were her very own life. This atmosphere of a woman giving birth was somewhat ceremonial. I’m sorry but you don’t get this experience in a cold and sterile hospital full of strangers and sick people. Hardly the ideal place to welcome new, human life.

Don’t get me wrong, I am fully aware that complications do arise and medical intervention is necessary but you have to wonder with the major increase in c-sections over the years what is really going on in our hospitals.  For some women a c-section can be avoided all together. This is major surgery that takes longer for a woman to heal from and it leaves a horrible scar (at least for me it did). I’m not totally against c-sections; c-sections have saved a lot of lives. I just question the reasons for the increase and if it’s really necessary and a lot of other women are doing the same thing. They realize that this is a natural part of life and they want to take back their right and power. The art of midwifery is making a come-back like never before because women know and understand its importance. Women seek midwives to give their bodies a fair chance to do what only comes naturally. Oh! and to avoid ugly scarring, long recoveries, and needles/meds among other things.

Happy Homemaking!

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Raunchy Lyrics, Raunchy Children

Is Music Corrupting Our Children?

Read these lyrics and answer the question for yourself.

This one is for the boys with the boomin’ system

Top down, AC with the coolin’ system

When he come up in the club, he be blazin’ up

Got stacks on deck like he savin’ up

And he ill, he real, he might got a deal

He pop bottles and he got the right kind of build

He cold, he dope, he might sell coke

He always in the air, but he never fly coach

 He a muthafuckin trip, trip, sailor of the ship, ship

When he make it drip, drip kiss him on the lip, lip

That’s the kind of dude I was lookin’ for

And yes you’ll get slapped if you’re lookin’ ho

I said, excuse me you’re a hell of a guy

I mean my, my, my, my you’re like pelican fly

I mean, you’re so shy and I’m loving your tie

You’re like slicker than the guy with the thing on his eye,

oh Yes I did, yes I did Somebody please tell him who the eff I is

I am Nicki Minaj, I mack them dudes upBack coupes up, and chuck the deuce up

 Boy you got my heartbeat runnin’ away

Beating like a drum and it’s coming your way

Can’t you hear that boom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom bass?

He got that super bassBoom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom bass

Yeah that’s that super bass Boom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom, he got that super bassBoom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom, yeah that’s that super bass

 This one is for the boys in the Polos

Entrepreneur niggas in the moguls

He could ball with the crew, he could solo

But I think I like him better when he dolo

 And I think I like him better with the fitted cap on

He ain’t even gotta try to put the mac on

He just gotta give me that look, when he give me that look

Then the panties comin’ off, off,

unh Excuse me, you’re a hell of a guy

You know I really got a thing for American guys

I mean, sigh, sickenin’ eyes

I can tell that you’re in touch with your feminine side, oh Yes I did, yes I did

Somebody please tell him who the eff I is

I am Nicki Minaj, I mack them dudes up

Back coupes up, and chuck the deuce up

 Boy you got my heartbeat runnin’ away

Beating like a drum and it’s coming your way

Can’t you hear that boom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom bass?

 He got that super bassBoom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom bassYeah that’s that super bass Boom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom, he got that super bassBoom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom, yeah that’s that super bass

See I need you in my life for me to stay

No, no, no, no, no I know you’ll stay

No, no, no, no, no don’t go away

Boy you got my heartbeat runnin’ away

Don’t you hear that heartbeat comin’ your way?Oh it be like, boom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom bass

Can’t you hear that boom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom bass?

 Boy you got my heartbeat runnin’ away Beating like a drum and it’s coming your wayCan’t you hear that boom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom bass?

He got that super bassBoom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom bassYeah that’s that super bass Boom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom, he got that super bassBoom, badoom, boomBoom, badoom, boom, yeah that’s that super bass

Oh mom, this is my song! Can you turn it up? This is what I hear when I get into the car with my children and this is where I have to be the music police. My children hate riding with me because they know that they are going to have to listen to talk radio, gospel music, jazz, or something old school and less toxic.

Before I became a mother I loved to listen to hip hop, pop, r&b, rock, and even a little country; however, after becoming a mother and really submitting my will to God my eyes became open and I began to notice a disturbing pattern in music and entertainment. This pattern is sex, partying, drinking and drugging, promiscuity, bad language, degrading women, and material lust. When you’re young, you don’t think much about the lyrics in music and what is really being planted into your subconscious. I know that for myself, I want to guard my own mind  as well as my children’s and keep it on things of God, righteous, and uplifting. I don’t know about you but I don’t think that what we are hearing in music today is hardly  righteous and uplifting. I surely don’t want to hear about “I kissed a girl and I liked it” as Katy Perry so eloquently put it while I’m riding with my kids in the car. Music is supposed to tell stories (positive stories), uplift, encourage, and be lovely…NOT suggestive, raunchy, degrading, and negative. Music is another form of meditation and if your children are meditating on music like this in the car, on the bus, at school, etc.., then what you have is a toxic world feeding your children lies, deception and immorality that persuades and entices them to think that this behavior is ok and acceptable.

 With 98% of today’s popular music carrying toxic messages no wonder we have so much teenage pregnancy, STD’s homosexuality, materialistic, and immediate gratification seeking kids (and adults). We as parents all know that children imitate what they see and hear in music more than what they see and hear from their parents. While radio stations may think they’re getting away with so-called “censoring” and bleeping out certain words, kids (especially teens) are not stupid. They know exactly what is being said.  That’s why when I saw this you tube video, I cringed. First of all, as a mother, there is no way I would have my child parade around in private or publicly reciting filth and garbage that I, as an adult, would not even sing even if my life depended on it. Yeah, I know that the family is actually from England and they may not know exactly what is being said in this song. However, if they were really concerned about what their children were listening to, all it would have taken was a little research on the internet before they went on national television singing and dancing to a song that one would hardly call appropriate for any man, woman , or child to sing. Had the parents done this, I don’t think little Sophia and Rosie would have been on the Ellen show.

The radio stations, artists, and, entire music industry should be more responsible in the music they feed the public but since it doesn’t look like that will happen anytime soon, parents need to stop buying music from these people, stop supporting their work, we need to monitor our children’s iPods, car radio, and videos on tv (the images plus the music is a double whammy).

I know that kids are kids and they are going to hear such music no matter what we do or say, BUT……still do your job as a parent and be curious about what they are listening to and talk to them about what it is they are hearing. And yes parents…if you are listening to this raunchy music yourself, I would ask you what are you meditating on. I love music just as much as the next person but there is an alternative. There is a lot of music (other than inspirational) that is clean, wholesome,  and fun to rock to, you just may have to search a little bit.

Philippians 4:8: We are told to dwell on whatever is true, right, pure, lovely, excellent, and worthy of praise.

Look at these song titles from ALL of Nikki Minaj’s albums and it will give you a clue as to what the actual lyrics in the song are like:

Barbie world

  1. Dang  a lang lyrics
  2. F**k u silly lyrics
  3. Getting  paid lyrics
  4. Girlfriend      lyrics
  5. Take it off lyrics

Gold

  1. Blow  your mind lyrics
  2. Catch   me lyrics
  3. Dear old nicki lyrics
  4. Did  it on em lyrics
  5. Feel free lyrics
  6. Fly      lyrics
  7. Girls  fall like dominoes lyrics
  8. I’m  the best lyrics
  9. I      ain’t thru lyrics
  10. Last      chance lyrics
  11. moment      4 life lyrics + video
  12. Muny      lyrics
  13. Raining      men lyrics
  14. Romans      revenge (Remix) lyrics
  15. Save      me lyrics
  16. Super      bass lyrics
  17. Wave ya hand lyrics
It’s barbie bitch
  1. Baddest        bitch lyrics
  2. Best
  3. Break        up lyrics
  4. Brraattt
  5. Can’t        stop
  6. Click        clack lyrics
  7. Craziness
  8. Dang        a lang lyrics
  9. Dead        wrong lyrics
  10. Dopeman        lyrics
  11. Dreams        lyrics
  12. Feel        free lyrics
  13. firm        biz 08′ lyrics
  14. Getting        paid lyrics
  15. Handstand        lyrics
  16. High
  17. Intro
  18. Itty        bitty piggy lyrics
  19. My        ladies
  20. N.I.G.G.A.S.        lyrics
  21. New        york minute lyrics
  22. Spending        cake
  23. Sticks        in my bun lyrics
  24. Strippin’        in the club lyrics
  25. Sunshine        lyrics
  26. Warning        lyrics

Other songs

  1. Beam        me up scotty lyrics
  2. Check        it out lyrics
  3. Dopeman        lyrics
  4. Easy        lyrics
  5. Massive        attack lyrics + video
  6. moment        4 life lyrics + video
  7. Monster        lyrics
  8. Playtime        is over lyrics
  9. Your        love lyrics + video

Pink friday

  1. Blazin’      lyrics
  2. Blow      ya mind lyrics
  3. Check      it out lyrics
  4. Dear      old nicki lyrics
  5. Did      it on’em lyrics
  6. Fly      lyrics
  7. Girls      fall like dominoes lyrics
  8. Here      i am lyrics
  9. I’m      the best lyrics
  10. Last      chance lyrics
  11. Massive      attack lyrics + video
  12. moment      4 life lyrics + video
  13. Muny      lyrics
  14. Right      thru me lyrics + video
  15. Roman’s      revenge lyrics
  16. Save      me lyrics
  17. Super      bass lyrics
  1. Your love lyrics + video

suckafree 2.0

  1. Affirmative      action lyrics
  2. Beef      stew lyrics
  3. Big      bidness
  4. Excellent
  5. Get      ya money right
  6. Keys      under palm trees lyrics
  7. Million      dollar baby
  8. Pamper      me
  9. Slumber      party lyrics
  10. Still      i rise lyrics
  11. Story      of nicki (Intro)
  12. Sunshine      lyrics
  13. Tambourine      lyrics
  14. The biggest freak ly
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